Go with the flow philosophy ... I wanted to write more
After submitting my birth story yesterday, I found a diary submission about my birth that I wanted to share also. I am 36, single and this was my 1st child. I returned to where my family lived to have this baby. I sought all avenues of support I could: Pregnancy Help Line, the 'normal' birth classes at hospital, read copious amounts of books and yes got The Pink Kit. I enthusiastically embraced that too. The plan was a home birth with all the family in attendance. Through The Pink Kit I discovered that my pelvis was an unusual shape as mentioned before ... very long front to back and very narrow across ... hmmm. 'OK-we can work with this'. I thought and was encouraged by my support people to be psoitive but realistic, work to relax my sacrum (very tight) and encourage baby downward as past due date he'd still not descended into the pelvis fully. All the signs (late, high baby, posterior, funny shaped pelvis) for needing intervention and eventual Caesareian were there. I discussed this with my birth provider who encouraged me to adopt a 'go with the flow' philosophy' and trust that nature knew best and even 3 weeks overdue was taking the safest route. Finally the Braxton Hicks which I'd felt on and off since the 2nd trimester picked up in tempo and went on for 6 more days!! Now we were four weeks overdue and my family was beginning to freak. I just kept checking in with bubs and knew he was ok and so continued the non-intervention policy I'd stuck to from the outset. My midwife had the accupuncturist come daily to encourage and help with contraction. Labour proper began on Monday and went on to Wednesday afternoon. Excrutiating pain at the pelvic brim told us baby was having trouble just fitting into the inlet. Cervix was dilating ina diamond shape (not surprising really considering that was the shape of my pelvis!) and an anterior lip refused to go down even with ice and accupuncture. Eventually by Wednesday afternoon after almost 40 hours labour my midwife called a halt --- cervix now 6 cm and swollen, fresh meconium being passed and baby still no further than just above half way point. I'd gone as far down the natural birth path as was going to be permitted! Rush to hospital, emergency c/s and Jimi-zac entered the world covered with meconium but ok. Was the information in the Pink Kit useful? Invaluable. Knowing before hand that things would be tough, knowing my shape and what to do to work with it prevented it becoming a traumatic experience and instead enable me to meet each challenge with confidence. My support people were so supportive in every way thus enabling me to cope well. What would I do differently? Hmmm ... I think take it every more slowly, probably not 'force' contractions with accupuncture and use the birthing pool from earlier on. I'd only been 'allowed' in at the end and then for 30 minutes ... it was Heaven to be in it and HELL to have to get out again ... but it did slow things down. Pain: Contractions with a rest in between are a 'workable' pain. Visualizing bubs on the other side of an opening ring of light made me 'welcome' each contraction and feel excited rather than scared and fighting it. Focus: Relax, relax, relax!! Strong positive inner voice: I can do this. I will do this.' Suggestions for others: One of the best things for me was my support team. They kept me fed and watered with electrolyte balancing energy drinks and I'd still heaps (well ...quite a lot!) of energy reserves at the end and the next day after 3 nights no sleep, 40 hours labor and ceaesar; felt good, up and walking around, energy in reserve, awake, aware and 'coping' not at all wiped out. So I'd encourage anyone to do the same. Keep up your food and fluids and make certain your team knows how important that is. Also, if you do have to be in hospital keep in control and assertive. At no stage did I feel 'taken over' or 'managed' and that was because I kept the power because I had the skills!. Decision making with me and I didn't relinquish it to the medical team once I was thru the hospital doors. That was a big factor in me accepting with peace the need for a caesarean and now I can say it was ALL a good birth. Sure, hard work, didn't go to plan and I ended up at the other end of the spectrum ... from where I'd wanted to be .. but that was OK. Now Jimi-zac is 3 months and is a bundle of alert energy and I'm just so thankful to the pink kit and my team for the input and influence they had in making this a positive experience. it would have been so very different without the skills.