12/10/09

Depending on whether your baby’s mother is 32 weeks pregnant or 40, patience will vary. As you get closer to The Birth the less patient everyone becomes. This is a natural emotional transition from being pregnant to wanting to get the pregnancy over with and to meet this little person.

Somewhere in the middle of phase #4, your baby becomes a wee person. Yes, we all know that pregnancy is about growing a baby but once you can really feel different parts of the baby through the belly and can see it move inside something really changes in perception.

Sometime during phase #4 women also get very impatient because pregnancy can often become uncomfortable again. The baby has grown which means the uterus is often pushing the lungs to the side, the heart and stomach up and everything feels awkward and uncomfortable.

Also women’s sleeping patterns change so that they don’t sleep as well. This is the pre-training for being aware of the baby once it’s born. Being a parent requires attention even during the night … for several years.

The emotional irritability might arise again so you have to be patient. Being empathetic helps. If your belly was this big how would you be feeling?

With these emotional changes happening or about to happen, it’s very important that you do not lose track of your job at the moment … prepare the woman’s body to give birth.

• You should be spending 10-15 minutes each day doing the internal work.
• You should be working through the DVD in The Pink Kit Package and creating space inside the woman’s body. Spend 5 minutes/day doing something from the DVD.
• You should be practicing Directed Breathing …. 1 min/day; Touch Relaxation … 2 minutes/day; Communication … throughout the day.
• You should be developing your Teamwork skills, how to stay in the NOW, the Fascination Principle and practicing Kate’s Cat.

If you’re already doing this then you know that your increased skills are growing your confidence. Along with your confidence is your new ability to really understand both the 3 dimensional relationship between your baby and its mother how giving birth will be an exercise in plumbing … how this big object gets out!

Actually, you are now in your element. You have skills to learn and perfect (don’t expect to become ‘perfect’).

You may discover that you’ve had to use patience with your partner as you learn these skills. You might have realized that not all women spontaneously understand or know their body. You probably have been told quite frankly … ‘be GENTLE’ … when you do the internal work.

Developing patience now will serve you well over the years as your children challenge you in the many ways children do.

Look back on how you might have challenged your parents and how they exercised patience nor not.

Patience is not the same as ‘no boundaries’. Being patient is not the same as overly explaining. Being patient means that you set clear boundaries and have a reasonable expectation that your children live within those boundaries.

Patience is all about ‘breathing’. Whenever you feel your patience slipping, take a few deep breathes, relax and regain control of your emotions.