19 July 2009
So here we go. I have to say that it’s a whole different world that a positive pregnancy test can occur so quickly after implantation. Now you actually know within 72 hours or so. That’s a bit unreal.
When I fell pregnant with my daughter in 1969 (gave birth in 1970) it was weeks before my pregnancy could be confirmed.
It’s important that you truly understand what is happening inside a woman’s body during the first 12 weeks. Go to this website and read through the list. Then compare it to the woman in your life.
What you’ll notice is that while the physical changes going on inside her body you might not be having, you will be having all the emotional and mental changes.
You’ve got to get this in perspective. Being a father or mother is a huge change in every person’s life.
As a child, you were exempt from a lot of responsibility. As a young adult you began to be aware of what being an adult meant. Now, I have to say that people living in modern societies grow up differently that children in traditional living cultures. There’s a good reason. Everything in traditional cultures must be done within the community. There are no stores, machines to make clothes or modern medicine to do surgery.
In modern societies children are encouraged to ‘play’ and have no responsibility. Young adults do not often know how to become adults. Also cultural ways of doing things are not passed on as they used to be so most of us don’t have a clue what is expected of us.
Then go to Wikipedia and learn about Couvade Syndrome for men.
Once you become pregnant, know about it and know that pregnancy will continue your life changes just like a woman’s does. The only way to ‘go back’ is if the pregnancy does not advance. BUT in fact there is no going back.
So this early part of pregnancy impacts women in many ways. Notice which of those changes are physical and which are emotional or mental. Doing so will help you understand what the woman is feeling.
However, notice something else. Let’s take a physical symptom … nausea. If you’re sick all the time that does impact emotions.
Secret #1
Most women are totally overwhelmed during the first 12 weeks of pregnancy and here’s why … she is out of control of her body. Women soon learn that this ‘other’ person is actually very powerful. You can imagine something growing inside you and doing it’s own thing but making its presence own every single moment of your life.
So there are two aspects of this early pregnancy phase:
- How you can help her
- How you can use this time to grow your ‘fatherhood’ qualities.
Now what are the qualities of fathers? Hum. That’s a big question. Sadly no one talks about these things but now we will.
So, next blog we’ll talk more about the qualities of ‘fatherhood’ and how you can grow these qualities during these early months of your pregnancy.
Bottom line
This blog will help you develop skills while your baby is growing inside its mom’s belly. You also need skills to be an effective help during The Birth. Here’s the best resource The Pink Kit Package (The Tool kit for fathers-to-be) is what you need to learn starting at 24 weeks … or later if you are reading this later in pregnancy. Become a wonderful birth coach/support and Wow your doctor or midwife, your parents, friends and partner. Step up now.
