Too many women who 'choose' a vbac and end up with another Cesarean feel they've failed, experience extreme disappointment, often anger and dissatisfaction. Listen to the audio and see if your thoughts and feelings can shift paradigms.
What is happening here? Part of the difficulty lies with the term vbac ... or vaginal birth after a Cesarean. Somehow the term 'labor' has been left out.
All of us know the Cesarean rate continues to rise ... why? Most women do not have a Cesarean when their baby is in the vagina. Most have a surgical birth sometime during labor. This means we have to focus on what we are doing during the labor that opens our body so our baby can descend into our vagina.
For the past 40 years we have put a huge amount of emphasis on Birth Plans ... what we 'want' and 'choose'. We have a 'choice based' approach to pregnancy and birth.
We hope you'll expand your thinking and realize that giving birth is an activity you have to do. This means you and your partner need incredibly good birth and birth coaching skills so you cope well with the natural occurring pain of dilation.
In other words, you have to produce a Skills-based Birth Plans as well. Too often that 'unnecessary' Cesarean is caused by our inability to manage the natural pain and without good coaching skills used by our significant other.
But having skills leads to another success. You got pregnant to have a baby which means you and your partner can always work with your baby's efforts to be born. That should be a given but without skills most families become passive and that leads to the disconnect that causes the negative emotions.
How our baby is born should not stop us from being skilled at helping our baby's birth journey. That's our role as a parent even if how your baby is born is not quite to your liking.
To achieve a successful VBAC, having skills is even more essential. You and your partner must know how to open your body to let your baby come down, through and out. Birthing Better with The Pink Kit Method® gives you all those skills.