A pregnant woman is unique. She's pregnant with a baby that is half her's and have her partner's. It is her body and yet the baby is not entirely her's. Listen to this audio to find out exactly what you need to do to help her gain confidence in herself and you.
When you, as a dad, want your pregnant partner to have a vaginal birth after a previous Cesarean then you have to step up and gain the skills that will give her confidence that she can be successful. Check out this expectant father's blog.
Pregnant mothers-to-be often feel less confident with their baby's father because of his lack of growth during her pregnancy. Women are mandated to grow and mature during pregnancy because your baby has a biological imperative of growth which drags the mother along whether she wants to or not. Fathers-to-be MUST grow by choice but most don't know how or what they are growing. The blog will help you mature.
Then you must help her prepare her pregnant body to become a birthing body, learn and practice birth and birth coaching skills and then be absolutely certain you will help her cope with the natural occurring pain of cervical dilation.
For forty years pregnant families have been discouraged from having skills ... instead making 'choices'. Your wish for your pregnant partner to try for a vbac is all about 'choice' but if you lack skills then she will not have confidence in herself or you.
We also use the term vbac as though a 'vaginal' birth is the experience. Instead, the majority of the activity that she fears is the labor ... and the pain.
One thing more ... if your pregnant wife decides to have a non-laboring surgical birth or has an emergency Cesarean, you must keep in mind that giving birth is always an activity that she, your baby and you do together. All the skills you'll learn in The Pink Kit should be used in whatever birth you find yourselves. This way you can always work with your baby's efforts to be born. This commitment to being a skilled father will make a huge difference in your relationship to both your baby and your partner.
We want fathers-to-be to want their pregnant partners to try for a labor and vaginal birth after a previous c/s section. We know this is most likely to be achieved when both of you are skilled parents-to-be.