In your parents life time the way Cesareans were performed has changed greatly. Instead of cutting the uterine muscles up and down, the lower ones are separated. Instead of giving birthing women a general anesthetic and are unconscious, women have an epidural and are awake.
And fathers-to-be are usually present during the surgery.
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This means the risk of uterine rupture has been greatly reduced. This also means birthing women and their partner can be involved in the birthing journey of their baby even when their baby is born through surgical means.
Given that, there is a huge confusion about vbac or vaginal birth after a Cesarean ... there's no mention of 'labor'! In other words, the phrase implies you skip the really hard part and here's where the glitch lies. The vast majority of Cesareans occur because of some form of perceived 'failed' labor ... either a failure to progress or CPD (baby's head too big for the pelvis) AND women being too tired.
In other words, most obstetricians would love to see more women successfully navigate through labor on the way to giving birth vaginally. Of course there are some health issues that push you more in the direction of having a non-laboring Cesarean and personal choices.
In reality, we have a present trend in childbirth ... choice-based approach. You make a Birth Plan and have high expectations your birth goes as planned. But that's incredibly unrealistic. Now is the time to change to a skills-based approach to pregnancy and childbirth and this is why Birthing Better with The Pink Kit Method® will help you work through, deal with, cope with and manage the naturally occurring pain associated with dilation of the cervix. By doing so you'll not only wow your obstetrician, you'll also achieve your vaginal birth after a Cesarean.
Obstetricians see many hundreds of laboring women every year. They'll be lucky if they see 1 in 10 really know how-to labor and less expectant dads who know how-to really help his partner cope with labor pains. This must change.
Obstetricians are usually more than willing to have a woman attempt a 'trial of labor' and without skills too many women just don't cope well with the pain. That's sad but true. This can change. Each skilled birthing woman and skilled birth coaching dad shows their obstetrician that skills keep the birthing process progressing toward the vaginal birth.
Skills add another dimension. Although you might not achieve your vbac, you'll still have the skills to work with your baby's efforts to be born while being prepped and during surgery. This might not be what you 'chose' or 'planned'. However, remaining skilled, connected and engaged with your baby's efforts to be born is what you, as parents, must do.