What do we associate pain with? Death, injury, illness or a 'problem'. We can't imagine that pain is not a problem.
As a father-to-be you must get a reality check about the pain your pregnant partner will experience during childbirth.
Ask your birth professional these two questions:
- When my birthing partner experiences increased pain does this mean a 'problem' is happening?
- Are there any medical 'problems' that cause the really bad pain my birthing partner experiences during contractions?
Once you learn that the 'pain' in labor is productive (the birthing process) and is not connected to medical problems then you can feel calmer and get on with the task of using your skills to help your birthing partner cope, manage, work with and deal with the natural occurring pain while giving birth.