Fathers-to-be are a bit confused what giving birth really is. First of all ... giving birth or being born is an activity. Your birthing partner and baby are both doing an activity. Every activity is done better with skills
Giving birth is also a journey both your birthing partner and baby make together. Most of us think of a journey as distance ... A to Z. However, it's a journey through Time ... the birth starts and ends.
You know this about pregnancy. That's certainly a journey!
While women are the only ones of our species who gives birth but this does not mean women know 'how-to' birth. We have to learn how. What we have to learn is skills. As a father-to-be you have to learn Birth Coaching skills so you can help your birthing partner use her learned birthing skills.
Birthing and Birth Coach skills are what both of you do while you take this journey. You fill the Time using your skills. Together you work with your baby's journey. This means you can always birth better even if the birth isn't what you planned or wanted. But that's no different then getting behind the wheel of the car. You need skills and use them at every single nano-second the journey you take.
So, take this journey as a skilled father-to-be and at the end of it ... once your baby is born ... you will feel more confident and empowered by what you 'did' rather than what 'happened'.